The Rainbow Connection

This title is a bit misleading. This isn’t a blog about rainbows, or even The Muppets. This is a blog about how triggers send us down a road we’d rather not travel on. Everyone has a trigger when it comes to grief. For some it may be a word, an event, an action taken by … Continue reading The Rainbow Connection

The Grief Connection

“person writing on a book” by Cathryn Lavery on UnsplashJust a short blog. Now that I know the pain of losing my brother, whenever I hear of a news event involving a life gone too soon or a friend loses someone prematurely, I feel every emotion tied to my experience and wish I could trade pain … Continue reading The Grief Connection

Separation anxiety is real.

Andrew, age 4. Dow Gardens, Midland, Michigan.Deadlines and urgent requests were pouring in so mom and I decided to work through lunch. She ran to get the food and took longer than I thought she should. Instantly, I could see her mangled car on the side of the road and waves of anguish approaching…then she … Continue reading Separation anxiety is real.

Do you have any brothers or sisters?

Andrew, Age 6. Mad scientistHow I respond when asked if I have siblings. How do I answer that? Yes. No. I did. Whatever answer I give is awkward. If I say “yes,” then I’m telling the truth but if they prod…I’ll get to that in a second. If I say “no,” I feel like I’m … Continue reading Do you have any brothers or sisters?

Explaining death to a child

Georgia.Tonight, Georgia was helping me give Violet a bath… “Someday G, you and Violet will be able to take baths together. Won’t that be fun? My brother and I took baths together when I was little. We loved it!” “But he died right?” “Yes, he did. He’s in Heaven now.” “Why didn’t his doctors try … Continue reading Explaining death to a child